Thursday, December 27, 2012
Monday, December 24, 2012
The One With The Double-sided Tape, Redux
Several years back, my wonderful husband decided to help wrap some gifts for my best friend's baby shower in Denver while I packed our suitcases. After some time, he yelled from upstairs to me, "HONEY, i THINK THIS TAPE HAS GONE BAD... ITS... LIKE... STICKY... ON BOTH SIDES!!!!
I tried hard not to laugh (at least in front of him) and explained that it was DOUBLE-SIDED tape. I should mention here that he knows how much I love this story. Really, because years later, I still find humor in it.
Fast forward to a few nights ago. The house is quiet save for the Christmas music is playing. Gifts for the boys are spread out before the two of us and we are diligently wrapping. After a few hours, we are close to finishing and Jonathan says, "I just ran out of regular tape. I had to use the double-sided. This last gift is going to stick to all the others."
There is really nothing else to add here, except, I love, love, love that man.
MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYBODY!
I tried hard not to laugh (at least in front of him) and explained that it was DOUBLE-SIDED tape. I should mention here that he knows how much I love this story. Really, because years later, I still find humor in it.
Fast forward to a few nights ago. The house is quiet save for the Christmas music is playing. Gifts for the boys are spread out before the two of us and we are diligently wrapping. After a few hours, we are close to finishing and Jonathan says, "I just ran out of regular tape. I had to use the double-sided. This last gift is going to stick to all the others."
There is really nothing else to add here, except, I love, love, love that man.
MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYBODY!
Wednesday, December 19, 2012
Tuesday, December 18, 2012
"A good conversationalist is not one who remembers what was said, but says what someone wants to remember." John Mason Brown
I had my first conversation with Chubalicious the other day! A whole, meaningful conversation. An exchange of ideas, back and forth, give and take. It went like this:
Chaubalicious: Mama? Mama? MAMA? MAAAAMAAAA?
Me: I'm back here.
Him: Mama, MamaMamaMAMA
Me: Right here, Bud, whatcha need?
Him: All done (handing me his empty cup).
Me: Okay, thank you, need anything else?
Him: No (walking out of the room).
I didn't say it was riveting conversation but a milestone, nonetheless.
Chaubalicious: Mama? Mama? MAMA? MAAAAMAAAA?
Me: I'm back here.
Him: Mama, MamaMamaMAMA
Me: Right here, Bud, whatcha need?
Him: All done (handing me his empty cup).
Me: Okay, thank you, need anything else?
Him: No (walking out of the room).
I didn't say it was riveting conversation but a milestone, nonetheless.
Thursday, December 13, 2012
From the Pregnant Chicken
I love this and it couldn't have come at a better time for me.
November 09, 2012/ Amy Morrison .
I’ve gotten a lot of emails from women saying they feel overwhelmed by motherhood. Not in a dangerous way, just in a “I totally suck and I don’t know how I’m supposed to manage all this” kind of way.
To this I say, you’re not supposed to.
If you think about it, if you had a baby thousands, if not hundreds of years ago, you would have had your mother, all your sisters (all of whom were probably lactating), and your nieces all taking care of your baby. They would help with food preparation, show you how to manage, and make sure your baby wasn’t eaten by a bear. Your kid’s feet probably wouldn’t have touched the ground until they themselves would be able to carry around an infant.
Back then the point of a child was to have free labour in the fields and someone to take care of your old ass down the road, and not much more.
As for the past generations that like to tell you that they raised six kids on their own and did it without a washing machine? Well, sort of. Keep in mind child rearing was viewed pretty differently not that long ago and you could stick a toddler on the front lawn with just the dog watching and nobody would bat an eye at it – I used to walk to the store in my bare feet to buy my father’s cigarettes when I was a kid. As a mother, you cooked, you cleaned, but nobody expected you to do anything much more than keep your kids fed and tidy.
My grandmother used to tell the story about how she forgot my mother at the grocery store in the early 40s. She walked up to the store with my mother sleeping in her carriage, parked it outside with all the other sleeping babies (I’ll let that sink in), went inside to do her shopping, then walked home forgetting that she’d taken the baby with her. She quickly realized her mistake and walked back and retrieved my mother who was still sleeping outside the store.
There were no flashcards, there was no sign language (unless you were deaf), there were no organic, free-range bento boxes – your job was to just see a kid through to adulthood and hope they didn’t become an idiot.
Hey, I’m not judging, and I’m not saying one way is better than the other, but I’m just saying that we are part of a generation that considers parenting as a skill. Like a true skill that needs to be mastered and perfected and if we don’t get it right we think our kids suffer for it and that's hard shit to keep up with. That's not to say other generations didn't have it tough or think parenting was important, but there just wasn't the same level of scrutiny that could be liked, tweeted or instagramed all at once.
You are in the trenches when you have a baby. To the untrained eye it seems pretty straightforward and easy – you feed them, you bathe them, you pick them up when they cry – but it’s more than that. It’s perpetual motion with a generous layer of guilt and self-doubt spread on top, and that takes its toll.
Feeling like you also need to keep on top of scrapbooking, weight loss, up-cycled onesies, handprints, crock pot meals, car seat recalls, sleeping patterns, poo consistency, pro-biotic supplements, swimming lessons, electromagnetic fields in your home and television exposure, is like trying to knit on a rollercoaster – it’s fucking hard.
We live in a time when we can google everything, share ideas, and expose our children to amazing opportunities, but anyone that implies that they have it figured out is either drunk or lying (or both) so don’t be too hard on yourself.
Your job is to provide your child with food, shelter, encouragement and love, and that doesn’t have to be solely provided by you either – feel free to outsource because they didn’t just pull that “it takes a village” proverb out of the air.
Mommy and Me classes, homemade lactation cookies, and learning Cantonese is all gravy, and if you can throw them in the mix once in a while, good on ya, Lady. I have about 9,000 things I've pinned on Pinterest and I think I've done four of them which is fine by me because those are above and beyond goodies, and not part of my just-scraping-by norm.
It’s an amazing and exciting time to have a baby right now, but always keep in mind, no one has ever done it like this before – you are pioneers that have to machete through the new terrain. Chin up. Hang in there. And remember, you’re doing a great job.
http://www.pregnantchicken.com/2012/11/9/why-youre-never-failing-as-a-mother
Why You're Never Failing as a Mother
November 09, 2012/ Amy Morrison .
I’ve gotten a lot of emails from women saying they feel overwhelmed by motherhood. Not in a dangerous way, just in a “I totally suck and I don’t know how I’m supposed to manage all this” kind of way.
To this I say, you’re not supposed to.
If you think about it, if you had a baby thousands, if not hundreds of years ago, you would have had your mother, all your sisters (all of whom were probably lactating), and your nieces all taking care of your baby. They would help with food preparation, show you how to manage, and make sure your baby wasn’t eaten by a bear. Your kid’s feet probably wouldn’t have touched the ground until they themselves would be able to carry around an infant.
Back then the point of a child was to have free labour in the fields and someone to take care of your old ass down the road, and not much more.
As for the past generations that like to tell you that they raised six kids on their own and did it without a washing machine? Well, sort of. Keep in mind child rearing was viewed pretty differently not that long ago and you could stick a toddler on the front lawn with just the dog watching and nobody would bat an eye at it – I used to walk to the store in my bare feet to buy my father’s cigarettes when I was a kid. As a mother, you cooked, you cleaned, but nobody expected you to do anything much more than keep your kids fed and tidy.
My grandmother used to tell the story about how she forgot my mother at the grocery store in the early 40s. She walked up to the store with my mother sleeping in her carriage, parked it outside with all the other sleeping babies (I’ll let that sink in), went inside to do her shopping, then walked home forgetting that she’d taken the baby with her. She quickly realized her mistake and walked back and retrieved my mother who was still sleeping outside the store.
There were no flashcards, there was no sign language (unless you were deaf), there were no organic, free-range bento boxes – your job was to just see a kid through to adulthood and hope they didn’t become an idiot.
Hey, I’m not judging, and I’m not saying one way is better than the other, but I’m just saying that we are part of a generation that considers parenting as a skill. Like a true skill that needs to be mastered and perfected and if we don’t get it right we think our kids suffer for it and that's hard shit to keep up with. That's not to say other generations didn't have it tough or think parenting was important, but there just wasn't the same level of scrutiny that could be liked, tweeted or instagramed all at once.
You are in the trenches when you have a baby. To the untrained eye it seems pretty straightforward and easy – you feed them, you bathe them, you pick them up when they cry – but it’s more than that. It’s perpetual motion with a generous layer of guilt and self-doubt spread on top, and that takes its toll.
Feeling like you also need to keep on top of scrapbooking, weight loss, up-cycled onesies, handprints, crock pot meals, car seat recalls, sleeping patterns, poo consistency, pro-biotic supplements, swimming lessons, electromagnetic fields in your home and television exposure, is like trying to knit on a rollercoaster – it’s fucking hard.
We live in a time when we can google everything, share ideas, and expose our children to amazing opportunities, but anyone that implies that they have it figured out is either drunk or lying (or both) so don’t be too hard on yourself.
Your job is to provide your child with food, shelter, encouragement and love, and that doesn’t have to be solely provided by you either – feel free to outsource because they didn’t just pull that “it takes a village” proverb out of the air.
Mommy and Me classes, homemade lactation cookies, and learning Cantonese is all gravy, and if you can throw them in the mix once in a while, good on ya, Lady. I have about 9,000 things I've pinned on Pinterest and I think I've done four of them which is fine by me because those are above and beyond goodies, and not part of my just-scraping-by norm.
It’s an amazing and exciting time to have a baby right now, but always keep in mind, no one has ever done it like this before – you are pioneers that have to machete through the new terrain. Chin up. Hang in there. And remember, you’re doing a great job.
http://www.pregnantchicken.com/2012/11/9/why-youre-never-failing-as-a-mother
Wednesday, December 12, 2012
Wednesday, December 5, 2012
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