If you are looking for cute pictures and video, come back tomorrow. Today, I am mad.
I have actually been mad for a few days but only now, am I not-mad-enough to blog about it. You see, lately, I have been running into a couple that I know a lot more frequently. Whenever I do, she comments on me seeming so tired and stressed - which I am.
Its in a judgey way that she says these things. Her job probably equates to less than part-time hours on a weekly basis.
But, I am busier at work than I ever have been, I am 7.5 months pregnant in June in Florida, I am trying to prepare for a new baby, and I am running after a toddler. Being tired and stressed out is not that unusual for the circumstances.
I am not unhappy.
The male half of the couple, keeps asking me if I plan to work after the new baby arrives. I am not sure how many times I need to say yes but he KEEPS ASKING. And every time I say yes, he makes a different judgey comment. this last time, it was, "Well, you must really like your job."
Newsflash: I do (most of the time). I certainly did not go to grad school to get an MRS degree.
So, I end up walking away feeling as though my ability as a mother is being questioned.
Jonathan, on the other hand, gets told he is in the running for Father of the Year because, wow, he drops his kid off at daycare AND takes him to the doctor for well visits.
So he is father of the year and I am.... what?
Don't get me wrong, my husband is a fabulous father and husband but, really, we both give it our all. We both do what needs to be done, when it needs to be done. Sometimes, its 50/50. More of the time it is some unequal percentage, its80/20 or 90/10. And who is doing the 10 and who is doing the 90, that changes depending on what is going on.
We are, collectively, ok with this arrangement, but it pisses me off to have other people pass these passe judgements on our lifestyle. Its not 1890, I thought we'd moved past all this.
Are women ever going to be able to go to work and have a child and not be judged for it?
